Mediation is a vital step when looking to resolve financial and child arrangements between parties. The idea behind mediation is that through the help of a third (unbiased) party, all the groups involved will be able to put forward their opinion on an issue in the hopes of coming to an amicable agreement. Due to the nature of divorce, many couples look to get mediation in order to settle the issues and move forward. Going through a divorce is never a simple process and resolving agreements through mediation can help you move on. Below are some tips on how to best move on after mediation.
Enact any Changes
If an agreement has been reached in the mediation session, the mediator will produce two documents, but this will depend on your case. One of the documents is called the ‘Open Financial Statement’ which is a summary that outlines the schedule of setting out both parties’ finances. If your case is just child-related, then an ‘Open Financial Statement’ won’t be applicable.
The second document that the mediator will produce is a ‘without prejudice’ document known as a ‘Memorandum of Understanding’. This outlines the proposals that both parties have made to each other and what the outcome reached was. However, your mediator will have explained that reaching an outcome does not necessarily mean that you have a binding agreement. There are procedures and rules in place that deal with how the outcome of the mediation session is turned into an agreement.
The mediator will advise both parties to take the Memorandum of Understanding to their solicitors so that they can draft up formal agreements which will set out the terms that both parties agreed on. Once a binding agreement is in place, it may be in everybody’s best interest to try and address any changes quickly in order to get into new routines and habits after separation.
Consider What You’ve Learned
The mediation process may open your eyes to a part of your personality you may not have been aware of and as such, can play a key role in your growth toward the future. It is also likely that during the divorce process, you’ve learned much about those around you and can utilise that knowledge toward personal growth. Taking time to process everything is a large part of moving on and by doing so, you work your way through the emotional and practical considerations that have been placed on you.
Finding a New Rhythm
Mediation can bring changes and it’s important to try and settle into any changes as quickly and comfortably as possible. Life will change but it doesn’t have to be negative and the new outlook on life that you may now have can lead you to discover new hobbies and passions.
Take Care of Your Mental Health
No doubt the weight of your divorce will have had an impact on your mental health. You may find yourself not doing the same things that you may be used to and finding something to fill this time and keeping yourself interacting with people is crucial. Your support network of family and friends are paramount in keeping you connected while you discover things to fill the gaps. Counselling can be a great way to speak with someone who is a professional and has the skills and knowledge to help you effectively.
The process of moving on is challenging, but many have found solace in keeping their head held high and focusing on all the new things that their future holds.
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