Children’s Mental Health is at Risk in many Separations & Divorces
Following the breakdown of a relationship, it often still necessary to communicate with your ex. Usually, communication relates to children from the relationship. We work extensively with families and children in this situation. Sadly, most have some form of conflict or disagreement and therefore find it hard to talk civilly or agree on things like child care arrangements, financial support or a change in personal circumstance, like a new partner entering into the family. Research shows that conflict between parents has a major impact on their children.
Whilst the immediate effects of conflict may not not always be identifiable, the Early Intervention Foundation (EIF), has identified some key findings (read the full report here). Whilst they are very encouraging, parents need to adopt certain practices to safeguard against a number of problems a child may face, including academic problems, physical health problems, social and interpersonal problems, with research increasingly recognising that these problems may individually and/or cumulatively affect a child’s long-term life chances, welfare, and intergenerational transmission of negative outcomes.
The Quality of Parenting Counts
The quality of the inter-parental relationship, specifically how parents communicate and relate to each other, is increasingly recognised as a primary influence on effective parenting practices and children’s long-term mental health and future life chances.
Children of all ages can be affected by destructive inter-parental conflict, with effects evidenced across infancy, childhood, adolescence, and adulthood.
Inter-parental conflict can adversely affect both the mother–child and father–child relationships, with evidence suggesting that the association between inter-parental conflict and negative parenting practices may be stronger for the father–child relationship compared to the mother–child relationship.
The Family Mediation & Counselling Service (FMACS) is committed to helping parents in conflict where children are involved. Working closely with Warwickshire County Council’s Family & Children’s teams, FMACS continue to achieve positive results not only for the children, for the parents as well. Providing both mediation and counselling to both children and parents, FMACS offers more in-depth and effective support for families in dispute.
The Voice of the Child, is at the centre of the work of FMACS. Specially trained mediators are qualified to work directly with children. Often the child’s voice is rarely heard and therefore their wishes are those decided by their parents. Child mediation is powerful in helping the child’s voice, their wishes and desires to be clearly heard by their parents. All child mediation is conducted with the full agreement of the child and both parents.
Help is Available to You
FMACS will help you to:
- Improve communication with your ex
- Explore ways to improve relationships for the benefit of your children
- Help with agreeing children-care arrangements
- Ensure your voice is heard in a safe and unthreatening environment
- Maintain confidentiality
- Be non-judgmental
- Will not take sides but will ensure all opinions and wishes are heard clearly
If you would like to discuss post separation mediation, you can speak privately and confidentially (and without any obligation) to an advisor by telephoning 0330 113 0005 (Local Rate Call) or email firstname.lastname@example.org